Tips for dealing with Teenaggers

• Try to discuss issues/conflicts in a positive way, without loosing your temper. It is better to 'negotiate' with your teenager and to compromise and find a solution that you both accept, just like you would do when dealings with an adult.
• Show him you understand how he feels and that you are there to help if needed.
• Don't expect to agree with each other all the time. Try to understand her views and let her make her own choices where possible.
• Try to choose a good time to talk things over, and say clearly what you want to happen in a particular situation. You may have to compromise on some things. Be a good listener.
• Avoid "put downs"; never ridicule or make fun of your teenager.
• Don't underestimate the depth of his feelings - be sensitive. It can help to use "I" messages rather than "You". For example "I feel .. when you are " rather than" you make me feel so .. when you do .". Be specific, they then know exactly why you feel the way you do.
• Let your teenager know you value her in your family. They still need to hear that they are loved.
• Teenagers are more likely to show respect for your views if you show them respect too. Try not to be too critical. As they become adults, children need lots of support, encouragement and praise to build up their confidence and self esteem.
• Teach life skills eg how to organise a driver license, defensive driving, how to fill out application forms, attend interviews, budgeting, newspapers, electronic gadgets, use a bank account, timetables etc